Couple's Intensives
This model is an excellent option for couples with a treatment-resistant partner, or those who have had limited success with earlier attempts at therapy. The opportunity to combine the ease and beauty of a holiday with the chance to heal old wounds is, for many, the balance that finally allows movement forward.
The Kiss - Gustav Klimt - 1908
Mission
At our retreat, we are dedicated to helping couples navigate some of the most difficult challenges a relationship can face — recovery from infidelity, addiction, anger, and communication breakdown. We believe that stepping away from the very environment where these patterns have developed can unlock new possibilities for growth and healing.
Our mission is to foster understanding and genuine support, guiding partners toward stronger connection and a renewed sense of partnership. Together, we help couples embrace new beginnings and build lasting harmony in their lives.
What to Expect
Your programme begins before you arrive. Gaylin will speak with both of you individually in advance — separately, and in confidence. This matters. Each partner deserves to be heard without the other in the room, and it allows Gaylin to understand the full picture before the first session begins. It also means that whatever level of willingness or scepticism you arrive with, you are already seen.
Sessions during the intensive will move between time together as a couple and time with Gaylin individually. The balance of joint and individual work is responsive — calibrated day by day to what the relationship can hold and where the most movement is possible. There is no fixed script.
The therapeutic approaches drawn on will depend on what is most relevant for you. For couples navigating betrayal or broken trust, the focus may be on creating safety and honest dialogue. For those who have drifted into distance and disconnection, the work may centre on rebuilding emotional attunement and rediscovering the friendship beneath the friction. For couples where communication has become consistently painful or impossible, the sessions will build new patterns — slowly, concretely, and with Gaylin present to hold the space.
Evenings are unstructured and yours. They are not empty time — they are part of the work. Tomar is a place that invites slowness: walks along the river, a quiet dinner, the particular intimacy of being somewhere beautiful and unfamiliar together. Many couples find that the evenings are where the shifts from the day's sessions begin to land.
Complementary sessions with Sandra Jay (massage and energy work) can be arranged individually or together, and can be a gentle way to close a day of deep emotional work.
Vision
Our vision for Couple's Intensives is to cultivate the kind of deep emotional connection that creates real healing and renewed hope. We move beyond problem-focused approaches by working with strategies rooted in interpersonal neuroscience and attachment theory. Drawing on EFT, EFFT, Imago, and the Gottman Method, we support couples in achieving emotional openness and rediscovering the friendship and partnership at the heart of a loving relationship.
Through careful listening, shared experience, and — where appropriate — humour, we create a transformative journey toward intimacy and connection.
Le Lit (The Bed), by Henri de Toulouse-Lautrec, 1893